Let’s be honest; how many times have you looked in the mirror and focused on your flaws? Round nose, small eyes, too fat, too thin, too short, too many pimples, big lips? How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought you are not hot enough or sexy enough?
Before you respond, I have to remind you that you should never base on the standards of the world. Why do I say that? Currently society is so fixated on their idea of beauty- flawless skin, smaller waist, and long neck- that often we also start believing in these false perceptions.
Look, in case you forgot, you are with no doubt, the only you in this entire world. You are the original version of yourself; so why do you try so hard to be a duplicate of someone that you saw on TV or in the magazine? Most of us, am sure, prefer to buy original products because the fake ones are fake indeed.
If you keep focusing on what is wrong with you, despite the fact that there is nothing wrong with you, you will only end up hurting yourself.
Yes I understand our human nature can be tricky sometimes: When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.
But life is too short to live it worrying about what is not perfect on your body yet we all know that when we die [a must for everyone, including you reading this] these bodies of ours rot and they are no more.
You see sometimes you may dream of leading a certain kind of life, for instance torture yourself with a certain slimming diet so as to become a size zero, terrorize your body with breast implants, butt implants among other plastic surgeries… the list is so long; but don’t be surprised when you enter that kind of life and still you are not happy.
You can choose to be true to yourself, to your needs and beliefs. I mean you’re always with yourself, so why not enjoy the company?
A wise man once said, “Self pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you’re hurting.”
Therefore, fellow human beings, if this monster called low-self-esteem has been giving you night mares,
Allow me to share this with you;
Start accepting yourself the way you are. You are this person and you are going to remain this person for all your life. Of course there will be physical changes in your body but even then you will be as beautiful as you are today, if not more. Challenge the societal perception of beauty. If a thin nose is pretty, there are tons of gorgeous women with not so thin noses, but they are all pretty and society calls them pretty. So should you follow the perceptions of such a fickle minded society?
Think positive thoughts at all times. The thing with the negative thoughts is that it only brings more negative thoughts. Once you start thinking about how you have gained two pounds, you will eventually start thinking about why your primary five crush never replied your letter! Seriously! Negativity does more harm than anything else, you need to cultivate a positive mindset and reflect your self-perceiving thoughts in a positive light.
Stop comparing yourself with others. This is absolutely the worst pain you can inflict upon yourself. Almost each one of us compares ourselves with others; whether it is in terms of physical appearance or success. You need to understand that you are a different individual and you have your own goals, aspirations, and purpose in life. You cannot compare yourself with someone who is on a different journey than you are. Two words- stop comparing! Very powerful, very profound.
Be surrounded by positive people. Negative people will only bring you down, they suck the happiness out of you. It is not their fault actually, they are fighting their own battles. If you feel this is affecting on your level of happiness, you should try to cut yourself away from them and try to find support and companionship in loving people who appreciate and value each other.