Children are a gift from God and almost every woman would at one point in life want to have one of her own. However, sometimes life is unfortunate that some women never get a chance to carry their own babies in their wombs due to various reasons. But this should never depress one. There is the option of surrogacy which I think it is high time that Africans (Ugandans) should embrace it.
Many women have not been able to give birth probably because they are barren, sick , had miscarriages among other reasons. This is one of the most painful things a woman can ever go through. Some lose hope of ever holding someone of their own blood. However, there are many options that can turn your sadness into joy which is surrogacy.
A surrogate mother is a woman who agrees to carry someone else’s baby. She becomes pregnant using some form of assisted reproductive technology, frequently IVF. A surrogate agrees to carry the baby usually by contract and for a fee, to bear a child for a couple who are childless because the wife is infertile or physically incapable of carrying a pregnancy.
The surrogate mother always carries the baby (in womb) to term and gives birth, and the baby is released from the hospital to its intended parents. So as the biological parents you get a chance to even be present as your child is being born. Although, you as the mother you don’t get a chance of carrying the child in your womb, biologically you are still the mother.
Why people chose surrogacy
Not every woman can be able to carry a child in her womb. Some women may have overgrown fibroids in the uterus, which cannot allow them to conceive. Others don’t enjoy being pregnant or have experienced complicated pregnancy and delivery. This would be the best option for them because most surrogates love being pregnant, and always find it an easy, wonderful experience for them. Most have completed their own families but look forward to being pregnant again.
Some may have lost their uterus as a result of excessive bleeding during previous childbirth or a serious infection, which may have caused the uterus to rapture.
Another common illness is endometriosis, a condition in which the uterus gets inflamed.
In Uganda, people have started embracing the surrogacy process. Dr. Tamale Ssali, the director of Women’s International Hospital in Kampala says many women have started embracing the technology. He said since the formation of the hospital, over 50 Ugandan women have since rented their wombs.
In an article with New Vision, Dr Ssali says the surrogacy programme gives one an opportunity to make dreams come true for those who cannot have their own children. He revealed that the first surrogate mother he handled, the procedure cost about sh13m. The costs include sh5m for gynaecological tests and sh3m for antenatal care and medicines. He also noted that the programme also involves counselling and psychological support to guide one through the entire journey. The surrogate mother is also provided with as much information as possible; spelling out their expectations in the surrogacy process.
Some people fear that a child born by a surrogate mother my not share the bond as his mother. Others are afraid that the surrogate mother might decide to keep the child, or maybe things might not work out, and one will be risking her money and emotions.
However, several studies show that children born to a surrogate mother or conceived through donated sperm or a donated egg do just as well psychologically as their counterparts who are naturally conceived.
Celebs who have used surrogate mothers
There are various celebrities who have used the option of surrogate mothers and are now enjoying the joy of having children with great testimonies. In December 2011, Actress Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban had a girl, Faith Margaret Kidman Urban. Faith was born through a gestational carrier and is the biological daughter of Kidman and Urban.