Sometimes people want to transform their lives and move ahead in life but just don’t know how to go about. In this blog we try to give you the simplest of tips to move you forward and be a better person.
You can learn any skill you want, or build your understanding of anything that is difficult, if you read about it! Reading doesn’t cost anything if you go to the public library, and you can also find great books at yard sales and thrift stores.
- Reading has the bonus of taking you out of your emotions and making your logical frontal cortex work.
- Reading develops your knowledge of what’s going on around you so you can cope with it better. Reading develops your language skills so that you have more success in the job world and can better communicate with the people you care for.
FIGURE OUT YOUR GOALS
Write down what it is you are working for, and what you want to accomplish with your life energy. What are your efforts leading you towards – and what would you rather work on to build for your future?
- If your goals have been superficial, like getting high, getting laid, eating, looking good or making money, you may want to reconsider and develop higher goals. Selfish goals never last and leave you with nothing other than the desire to get more (addiction).
- Higher order goals are more likely to lead to inner fulfillment. Consider goals based on more spiritual / less selfish values that you are drawn to, such as ‘love thy neighbor as thyself’, ‘make peace not war’, ‘protect the earth’, ‘help others’, ‘a safe neighborhood’ and ‘a happy family’.
- Artistic and creative goals are also more healthy than temporary and selfish goals. Contributing your energy to creative or expressive arts, like music, dance, fine art, gardening, crafts, or even creating a beautiful home or business, can give your life focus and give your skills a chance to make a positive difference.
Good, caring friendships are the one of the foundations of a healthy life! Friends are the source of strength and knowledge when you are down. Friends can get you connected to opportunities and help you brainstorm ways to solve your problems.
- If your friendships are based in superficial things, like alcohol, drugs or materialism, look for new friends. Go to places that represent your deeper interests.
- If you feel your friendships are out of balance because you give more than they take, try this:
- Make a list with 3 columns, ‘Impossibly Selfish’, ‘Possible/Negotiable’ and ‘Good’ and list all your friends under the title that fits them.
- Then, treasure the good ones, work on communicating better with the negotiable ones, and dump the selfish ones (if you can’t avoid them, try to limit contact with them and say ‘NO‘ more often)
LET GO OF YOUR PAST LIMITING CONDITIONS
If you are holding onto your past in a limiting way, start working to let go of it. Forgiveness work or make amends to those you have hurt.
- If your job is demeaning or abusive, get career counseling (there’s free and low cost versions on the web) and work to get a better situation as soon as possible.
DEVELOP A POSITIVE EMOTIONAL OUTLOOK!
Nothing sabotages good work more than negative emotions, which zap your energy and destroy your hopes! Keep a positive feeling or gratitude journal where you describe 3 things positively each day. Become more aware of your negative mind frame and challenge it to think differently.
- Eventually, we all need a balance, but if negative emotions are your habit, you have to overdo the positive ones to get back in control.
GET CONTROL OF YOUR STRESS!
You may be too stressed to think positively, or focus on the bigger picture. If stress is out of control in your life,
- Cut down on your obligations
- Delegate your work to others (they may complain, but they’ll be glad in the end)
- Schedule some down time to relax, chill out, or meditate.
MAKE A TO-DO LIST.
Write down your two (2) most important goals from your earlier task, and then list the baby steps you can take to move towards them.[related_posts]
- Want a better job? Baby steps might be to get career counseling, take a night/online training class, study the field (what’s available, what skills are needed…), write up a resume, practice interviewing skills, accept some failure, and so on.
- Post your to-do list somewhere prominent, so you will see it often, or put the items on your calendar on the dates you want to try to accomplish them.
- Accept some setbacks, but don’t give up!