Some people make love as if they are doing some sort of silent worship. Meditation, where they stare at each other and somehow enjoy the moment deeply. Others have sex as if they are creating a soundtrack for a Nat Geographic movie with tigers, bears, panthers and adorable pandas. I don’t know about you, but I’ll tell you something.
Personally, I am not going to be quiet. Nah. If you are pleasuring me, rest assured, I’ll let you know. If I want to turn the heat up … increase your libido and make you feel damn good, I will definitely exercise my vocals. And I don’t mean the porn-kind-of-vocals. I’m referring to the ones that keep ringing in your head even the next day while you’re at work trying to concentrate. The ones that make you lose your mind and when the flashback hits you, you feel blood rushing to your ‘soldier’.
Now, the same way I love exercising my vocals, is the same way I want my man to exercise his. Yassssss. I love to hear that animal come out. That tiger. I know some men are naturally quiet, maybe shy, but when it comes to sex, man, I love me some animal sounds.
One, it will really make me happy that you can let go, but yet still be confident and comfortable with me. Two, vocals can be a great way to have some more fun and really express how sweet it feels. And thirdly, there’s just something about a man groaning with pleasure. My. oh. Myyyy! It gets me off. Shoots me straight to eighth heaven, like a rocket! I don’t care if you choose to moan, growl, pant, sigh or simply talk dirty to me, just make a sound. And sound like a hungry, strong animal that wants to tear me apart and drill out all my horn and cream. (Not literally, but you get the picture?). Don’t frown, I like it rough. Hard. Strong. But sweet and passionate at certain points. With cuddles and soft ear bites. Is that too much?
So I did a small survey within my colleagues and asked them two questions. The men were asked if they moan during sex and the females were asked if they like a man who moans during sex. Out of 11 people, 4 said they don’t like it! Can you imagine? The saying ‘one man’s meat is another man’s poison’ came to mind immediately.
I can’t think of a reason why someone would want to have silent sex. Is it the environment? Are your neighbors too close? Do you have sex in office or cars, and don’t want anyone to notice? Is it the way you were brought up? To keep emotions under control? Help me understand.
See, I believe vocals are important for a healthy sex life. Like I mentioned earlier, noise (not too much) lets your partner know that you are enjoying yourself. The more noise, the more pleasure being had! Right? (I know some people fake sounds and pretend to have an orgasm or maybe do it simply because they saw it in movies, but I don’t recommend this! At all! And this is the part where I recommend you give your shrink a call and learn more about healthy communication).
Because you have to admit, sound triggers more desire in the other person; you both get into the moment and feed off each other’s vibe. You know the biggest sex organ is your brain and your ears are the gateways to it.
But maybe you are just not a talker in the bedroom. Maybe … when the pleasure gets to you, your muscles become tense, the expression on your face changes, your fingers and toes curl, and you arrive. Cloud 9. ta-daaa! I don’t know, but share with me, (if you don’t mind), what’s your thing?