A few days back, I read an article on the BBC News website which was focusing on the answers to the question, ‘’ is bride price an insult to women or a burden to men?’’ I don’t know what your answer is, but personally, I believe that paying bride price to the girl’s parents should simply be a sign of appreciation to them for having brought up such a wonderful woman.
Over the years however, people have turned the whole act into business, some people actually take it that after paying your bride price, they own you. The issue of bride price and its relevance can get complicated if it arises in a conversation where the parties involved don’t agree with each other.
Likewise, after I read this article I tried to get my friend’s opinion on this same issue. We talked, agreed on some issues and disagreed on other issues. During our conversation, which I think was more of a debate; another issue that for some reason perturbs most men came up. Have you heard of ‘’women emancipation’’? … If you haven’t, you can research about it; but basically it’s about equality of both men and women.
Most of today’s women want to be treated as equals with the male species. You have probably heard of these words more than once, ‘’what a man can do, a woman can do’’, the question remains, can they really do it all? It was at this point that I realized that even my friend had given some thought to this issue of women emancipation. He had not only given it some thought but he had also written down a small article on this issue expressing his opinion. The article read as follows;
Women emancipation seems to have taken an overdrive in Uganda. I am not sure about other countries though, because I seem to be geographically arrested by Uganda.
The number of independent women has over the few years tripled and seems to be multiplying without any hope of stopping. These ladies are so focused and hardworking but as every Ugandan society can testify, the woman has always been the most hardworking in the home despite the fact that our male egos cannot let us admit to this.
These ‘’complete’’ ladies have very serious jobs or businesses and seem to have borrowed a leaf from us the men. They are always out relaxing most evenings; they have also mastered the art of one night stands since they don’t want the ‘’baggage’’ that comes along with commitment. Their primary focus is simply sexual satisfaction.
This has forced many to recruit boy toys and this is a match to the old men who scheme on young campus ‘babes’. The adage ‘’something for something’’ seems to have gotten these women ticking too.
I want to see a society in Uganda where the woman will start paying bride price and marrying the man. Only and only then, will I accept the reverse of roles if this comes to pass. Personally however, I believe these ladies know what they want and seem more determined than us the guys.
After reading it I tried to remind him that this is actually possible. Indian women do it, who knows Ugandan women might borrow a leaf from them. But to a large extent, I must admit, I agree with my friend; if women want 100% equality, we must be ready to do all the things that men do including; vibing a guy, introduce him to your parents, meet his parents and offer to pay bride price to his parents, after all, we want to be equal- right?
I mean, let us not demand for equal rights only when it’s convenient or in our favor, let’s go all the way. Personally I believe, as long as my husband respects me and loves me, I will not find trouble with being submissive.
One may disagree with me that some things are simply meant for men as culture dictates; but fellow women, in Uganda and also in the religious books especially the Bible, isn’t it known that we, the women, should always be submissive to our husbands, because they are the heads??
I know … I know our minds have already been corrupted by the gospel of women emancipation and they tell us we should style up and stop being traditional- it’s the 21st century, BUT, are we ready to pay bride price for our husbands, build our family houses, do the heavy work they do, start taking our guys out, buy all the necessities in the home and … protect our men?
Yes, some of us do some of these things already, but are we going to reach a point in time where we’ll start experiencing true reverse of the roles? A point where it will be normal for a husband to babysit as his wife does carpentry? Or husband peels matooke as wife takes a beer with her mates?
I hope I still be alive to witness history changing! For what it’s worth, it will simply be Epic!!