Some Women are stuck with crazy expectations of men they must date before they die.
Negative experiences and circumstances force many women to come up with crazy dating checklists. Women should avoid crazy expectations and thoughts because they sabotage love. When it comes to dating, such women with dating checklists are believed to have a less desirable dating personality. Men tend to fear them.
Expect their men to be like their girl friends. A female brain is wired differently from that of a man. Not all men do movies or cooking. There is a girl who bought cake for her boy friend on his birthday. The boy friend ate a small piece and asked her to take it back. Interests differ between men and women. Few men are good with conversations and listening. It is common for men to rush to find solutions and yet the woman only wants to be listened to. Girl friends understand when to either listen or act on what they ear.
Single women want to date men like their fathers. So you reject fifty men because they do not dress like your father. Do all men you date have to study and dress like your father? Obviously getting a man exactly like your father may never happen. We are all different and men are not raised on universally acceptable standards. When a woman stops looking for her dad qualities in a man, everything gets back to normal. Love is about taking the package as is. How I wish women understand that you can make a man what you want but there is nothing like a complete package. The crazy expectation of a woman only dating a man just like their father surely keeps them on the market for a very long time.
Pretend to be like others. Some women believe that if they fake their lives, they attract the right man. They believe that men want particular female personalities. They quickly transform into drama queens which again can never keep a man. It’s hard for anyone to stay with someone pretending to be someone else. Dating is not a copying mechanism. Crazy expectations always cause Mr. Wrong floods to women. Some women complain that people they meet are not exactly those they want.
Want to date guys like those in the movies and novels. Some women are so obsessed with fictional male characters in romantic movies and novels. They end up developing a mental picture and description to that effect. In the real world, there is no real Cinderella treatment. Crazy expectations set by women for the men they want to relate with result in frustrations.
They believe that looks are everything. Some women expect the men they date to look a certain way. Some women hold unrealistic expectations and end up sabotaging their own chances of getting hooked. What if a man has the best height, muscles, smile, and skin but has the worst character? I know women who expect a man they date to be taller than them even when they are in high heels. Some Women may commit to only giving a chance to people who are taller than them. They think it is the only way to have a great kiss and hug. Some expect a Short person to cheat compared to others. Any person can cheat even the tallest. This is a fact.
Financial stability. Women expect to love an only financially stable man which is not right. Love can still be great when someone is not financially stable.No wonder some women are always moving from one relationship to another. Women raised by single mothers expect men to be the only providers. Surprisingly you may find that she is even from a poor family but cannot date a man from a poor family. It is okay to get a rich man who takes care of you but money is a guest. This is great but what will happen if he suddenly loses everything. Rich people are always arrogant and disrespectful.
Women expect to date only trustworthy men. All people have trust issues in life but you can work at minimizing them. Just because their fathers abandoned them at an early age, they expect all men to fear commitment. It is possible to get someone who is dishonest but along the way they grow into the most honest people.
If you are not currently in a relationship, ask yourself, why are you still single? With the wrong dating expectations, you will always attract the wrong type of person? Women need to act like Mr.right is around them there and then not like he is yet to come on a white horse. A checklist is not a totally bad idea. If someone has fifty percent, settle with that. You can always get the other fifty percent along the way.
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