“Excuse me,i have something to say to you,”she said while rolling her eyes,with fingers swaying and attitude oozing out her.
You see i’m a friend to Jake who happens to be Charlene’s bestie,whatever that really means.
So i make time to hear my fellow woman out,like what could be that burning for her to shake and tap her finger for.
“Okay,so i just wanted to let you know that Jake and i have something going on.”
“I know he is the shy type and may not necessarily have said anything yet,but yea…everything he does shows he’s into me,it’s only a matter of time.” she went to say
I was seated there dazed,not at her pronunciation but rather where all that was coming from.
“Okay,thanks for letting me know” i replied
Fast forward,two months later,whatsapp statuses and Facebook updates are a bit different,Charlene is posting about how “men are dogs”,suddenly she’s a counselor and philosopher of how men can’t be trusted.i figure you see where i’m going with this!
Of course as a woman,i felt bad that my dear acquaintance didn’t conquer her “promised land” but lets first think for a minute.
What happened to being clear,no blurred lines,assumptions as far as relationships are concerned?
I mean if Jake really like Charl as she said,he wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone else,but what do i know,right?
Lately the trend to leave things undefined and the fear to commit is too real!You find a guy enjoying all the boyfriend treatment but has come out clearly to state his stand with a particular lady(ies) if you may.
On the other hand,i don’t know whether the need to be “someone’s” other is stirring some ladies to assume relationships or stay stuck in situationships.Who even brought up the idea of a girl and boy can be “best friends” and no feelings or blurred lines?
PS.I have never bought that school of thought,either one of them settled for friendzone or likes the other but is scared to risk the other out!
Where am i going with this?
To be led on,in most cases is a two way thing.Ladies,a guy can’t lead you on without your consent!
Don’t risk disappointment and heartaches in the long run,ask those hard questions.You will be glad that you cleared up stuff early,trust me.
And please,if you have to fight other girls for him,verbally or even physically attack them chances are what you “two” claim to have is not as strong as you thought it to be.
If he needs convincing to stay,maybe he’s not all in!
For the gents,mutuyambe! be clear,if you are not meaning to take it anywhere don’t start fires you can not quench.
If she’s getting vibes you are not about to contain,be honest.Let her not feel she’s your important other when there’s nothing at all!