Ladies must learn to their pay bills
So why are most women hesitant to pay for anything when they have a man around? Is it selfishness? Some women earn more than some men but would still expect a man to pay. A lady who pays bills surely has guts and is considerate.
Whether it is a date or basic house shopping, ladies will always avoid footing bills. African culture has also not done any justice to raise women who do not look at men as they only provider in a relationship. The man is expected to clear bills traditionally but the world has changed. Women go to work today.
Why should a conversation or date go on well till the bill comes in? I must admit, it is rare to find a Uganda lady who is willing to spend her money in a relationship. Sometimes even when it was her idea to go out, a man will be required to pay for transport and food.
Ladies should foot bills in relationships once in a while to stand out. Spoil your date to just show you are unique. If the relationship is run by two individuals, why not split the bills. Women should stop fearing that once they pay, it becomes a habit for men not to pay for anything.
There are some men who do not accept women to spend because it hurts their ego. They believe that men are supposed to provide for women unconditionally. If the law looks at married people as one, why is it hard to put it in practice? Putting together resources is better. Go into the relationship as equals, not one person supporting the other.
If one of you can’t afford a fair share of the bills, then you’re living beyond your means and you need to reevaluate. Not having as much disposable income as you’d like after bills are paid is a great motivator to work towards a better paying job. If you just do not things by percentage, then the person paying nothing has no real incentive to do better. They are enjoying a good deal and will invest in luxuries yet you do not even have a house.[related_posts]
Women should be prepared to pay at all times. What if he forgets his wallet, the date does not go well or they expected you to pay. Women must be considerate enough. Women helping out with expenses shows the man that they are not one of those women who are easily impressed. A woman spending on herself helps protect her dignity.
If he does not stop a woman from opening her wallet, then they should not be offended. It is argued that leaving financial obligation to men is acceptable because it shows that a man cares about his woman through the financial stability. It is against the same belief that bride price is still stuck with us.
Always communicate financial aspects of your relationship to reconcile expectations. If you find out that your financial belief systems do not match, perhaps that may be the time agree on what to do. There are a many options when it comes to spending in a relationship.
Paying for bills can be done in turns, or by splitting individual bills. Decide on what will work for you. Men should not suffer silently. Women should be respectful of how they treat men and their wallets. That will lead to a long and happy relationship.
Some ladies will still expect you to pay for her taxi fare even when they are just friends with you.I have a friend who splits a shopping list on the first date as a test to avoid ladies who feel they are entitled to just be spent on.
Do women strike a difference between being generous and being exploited? Men have been financial caretakers of society since time in memorial. Going dutch actually makes sense. Equality means being responsible.