As a man, you are supposed to take care of your woman, physically, financially, sexually and emotionally. The fact that you do not have a job or enough money is not reason to make you not pamper her.
As a man, you are supposed to take care of your woman, physically, financially, sexually and emotionally
Recently, I was arguing with my colleagues on who should provide for who and when. Some especially the guys, strongly stated that a woman who has a job does not deserve to be given any money for luxuries like for plaiting her hairs or doing her nails.
And it made me think, is investing in your wife or girlfriend to look good a crime. Would you want her to look shabby in the public or for people to start referring to her as the other ugly woman?
Please men, take care of your woman, if it means taking her to the salon every week to make her hair or nails, do it. I bet it makes you feel proud when every man is really appreciating her beauty.
Do not give excuses of having no money, go out to the field, look for a good job, work hard, make money and shower her with love.
Yes, a woman might be working but that money is there to help you where she can and not everyday.
Many relationships and families have faced conflicts regarding the division of labor but it should be noted that a man is a man and he should prove that he can take care of his family.
Even the Bible says a man “must manage his own household well, with dignity keeping his children submissive,” in 1 Timothy 3:4. In the same book, Paul explains the responsibilities of a husband. “But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel”.
The Bible explains that marriage is a financial venture and the husband has a responsibility to finance or support or provide for his family. This is talking about money.
“As a husband, your earnings are not your own but belong to your wife as well and your children.”
Although males and females are equal in relationship to Christ, the scriptures give specific roles to each in marriage.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church …” in Ephesians 5:25-26 and then the wives are to submit to the authority of their husbands. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord… as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:22-24)
The Bible further instructs husbands to provide for their families by working hard to make sufficient money to provide their wife and children. It says if a man does not fulfil his duties, there are spiritual consequences.
“If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8)
Hadrat Allam Sayyid explains some of the obligations the Holy Qur’an requires men to do for the women in his book, “Gateway to Heaven” and how these obligations should be fully appreciated.
The book states that: “Every husband has the obligation to provide for the sustenance of his wife. She should be provided with adequate food, a comfortable home, suitable clothes and other basic amenities of life. He should always bear in mind that this woman has disassociated herself from her parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends and has joined him to share all the ups and downs of life. Hence, it has become his duty to look after her basic needs and comforts.”
So men, although your wife works and makes lots of money, it is your duty to take care of him and provide for the family needs such as food, bills, medical health and also pamper her.
I believe that even in the first place, before you decide to court that woman or take her as your wife, you should be capable of providing for her.
Please feel free to prove me wrong.
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